Mary Sue is notoriously in the eye of the beholder. I always considered the term to refer to a character (female or otherwise) who was the focus to such an extent that nobody else had any effective agency in the story—literally nobody else mattered. But that goes to the point elsewhere that it's a term used so many… » 11/25/14 1:37pm 4 minutes ago

The last bit is sort of an oversimplification in the other direction. Some things we can help; some things we can't. The problem isn't thinking it's all our attitude, or all structural issues, it's not recognizing that sometimes it's one and sometimes it's the other—and thus missing the proper solutions. » 11/21/14 11:52am Friday 11:52am